VALENTINE'S DAY | ASK SPECIAL
1:Do you have a crush at the moment?
Actually, I have just one. He's got amazing eyes and a smile that lights up the room.
(Crushes are harmless as long as one NEVER acts on them.)
2:Have you ever been deeply in love?
Deeper than one could ever fathom. It's why I stay by his side even when he breaks my heart.
3:Longest relationship you've ever been in?
3 years. 6 off and on.
4:Have you ever changed for someone?
Yes. But in my opinion, we all do in many little ways. We change to compliment our partner.. to become their partner.
5:How is your relationship with your ex?
Depends on which ex. Some are complicated, some I hate, and one or two became my good friends and I still care deeply for them.
6:Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes. Too many times to name. Each time was devastating and self esteem killers.
7:Have you ever cheated?
Yes. Technically. He knew I didn't want to be with him, but the cheating still devastated him worse than if I'd sacrificed everything I was with him for (children) and walked away.
8:Would you date someone who's well known for cheating?
I am and I would. I give everyone a second chance. I'm a firm believer in them.
9:What's the most important part of a relationship?
Mutual value of the relationship. If one cares more, it just won't work. Expectations become too high.
10:Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?
Flings are fun and serve a temporary purpose. I don't mind flings if all parties involved are honest with each other.
But love is a divine and insane roller coaster that I wouldn't give up for the world.
11:When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?
You need a break, we are done.
Forever is about fighting it out, climbing your individual mountains together.
If you need to separate yourself from me to fix a problem, I am not your partner nor do I have a desire to be.
12:How many people have you ever hooked up with?
I won't discuss this one. Not now, not ever.
13:What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?
I regret leading him on. I didn't want to hurt him, so I pretended to care when I actually disliked him. Dude had issues and wouldn't let me breathe.. but he pulled suicidal crap on me and I stayed.
Attention! Threatening suicide to keep someone with you IS abuse. I don't give a fuck WHO YOU ARE.
14:What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?
When they are mature enough to face any and all consequences including emotions involved with having sex.
Most girls aren't really ready until after 21 in my opinion. Guys, psht. They don't have emotions as teens when it comes to getting their dick wet.
Please note that I am NOT talking about ALL guys or girls here.
15:Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"?
In some ways, yes. But if the older person gets a Daddy or Mommy complex because they think they are "wiser", no. Been there, done that, ran the hell away from that relationshit.
16:Do you believe in "love at first sight"?
No. Lust yes. Love is about a deeper connection that only comes with secrets shared and intimacy.
17:Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet?
Yes. I have fallen there. Maybe not in a conventional sense, but there was a deeper connection than just bits on a screen.
18:What do you consider a deal breaker?
Cheating. I gave a few second chances. Never again.
19:How do you know it's time to end a relationship?
When you dread seeing them. When you think only bitter thoughts about them. When the bad outweighs the good, more than temporarily..
20:Are you currently in a relationship?
21:Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?
Yes. But after time has healed, only.
22:Do you think people should date their friends?
Depends. Is he worth the risk of never being friends again after a breakup?
I've taken that risk, and even though we never were as close as we were to begin with, I'm glad for our time together.
23:How many relationships have you had?
Serious relationships - 5. In love? 2.
24:Do you think love can last forever?
Yes. If I didn't, I wouldn't try and fight so hard for forever.
25:Do you believe love can conquer all things?
26:Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?
No. If anything I stick around longer than I would have if they had approved. I'm a rebel in MANY ways.
27:If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?
Not every guy who says he loves you does.
28:Do you think long distance relationships can work?
Yes. If the love is there, time and distance can not destroy it.
29:What do you notice first about another person?
Their smile and their ability to make ME smile.
30:Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?
Straight with some bi fantasies.
31:Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?
Dangerous, or just discomforting?
I suffer from bipolar and can be a handful some days. I'd be a hypocrite if I said no to all mental illnesses.
I will however, never put me or my children in danger.
32:Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?
Yes. A couple. The first is now serving time in prison for slitting his wife's throat with a box cutter in front of my daughter.
My daughter saved her life by holding her throat closed and calling 911. At only 6 years old.
He gets out this year, and will receive custody along with moving my daughter out of the state.
Tell me how the system works for victims. It doesn't.
33:Do you want to get married one day?
Yes. I really do. But only if both of us are certain about forever. Divorce is not an option, and if you think it is, I won't marry you.
34:What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed?
Bad juju. Anyone I know who has done it, has broken up soon after.
Symbols are different though. I'm getting a Griffin on my back, because even if I leave Griff, I've always thought Griffins were pretty fucking cool.
35:Could you be in a relationship without sex?
Yes. I'd miss it though.
Wait. Does this include hand jobs and oral? Because if so, no. Intimacy is a wonderful thing and important to relationships.
36:Are you still a virgin?
37:What's more important: Looks or personality?
Personality.. but looks is what starts the attraction.
38:Do you enjoy love films?
Yes. I'm mooshy that way.
39:Have you ever given anyone/received roses?
Received and given.
I like getting them for no reason.
But never roses. I prefer an off the wall flower, such as daisies and sunflowers.
Sending me flowers just because it's a special occasion takes all the romance out of it.
40:Have you ever had a valentine?
Who writes these questions?
41:What's your imagination of a "perfect date"?
Dinner at some quiet Italian restaurant, a few drinks possibly at a Karaoke bar, ending in a hotel room with a Jacuzzi, rose petals and other romantic gestures. Then love making until the sun comes up.
42:Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"?
Yes. I think it is the WORST play.
We teach our kids that this is the greatest love story of all time.
Then we wonder why many lovers commit suicide when left.
No one will ever be that important. Love doesn't hurt that way.
And why are we encouraging forbidden love? :shudders: Shakespeare romanticized everything in love that makes a person weak. Instead, we should be encouraging our kids to love themselves as part of humanity first.. because once they do, loving others will be easy.
43:What's more important: Your partner or your friends?
Depends. I've got only one friend more important than Nick.
44:Would you consider yourself "romantic"?
Very. I leave little love notes all around, and I still write "I love ______" on everything. I do little things for my partner that many times go unnoticed, not because I want to be noticed, but because I enjoy doing sweet little gestures for the person I love.
45:Could you imagine dating one of your current friends?
46:Have you ever been "friendzoned"?
God, yes. Ouch.
47:Which "famous couple" is your favorite?
Johnny Cash & June Carter Cash. (Hear: Johnny & June by Heidi Newfield)
48:What's your favorite love song?
Either the one in 47 or I Need You by Tim McGraw and Faith Hill.
Or both. Yeah, both.
49:Have you ever broken someone's heart?
A few times.
50:If you're single, why do you think you are?
51:Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy?
Poor nice guys win this girls heart every time. Don't think I've ever dated anyone with money, but I have dated douchebags. And no thanks. Never again.
52:Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?
Yes! I have a very good head on my shoulders when I'm outside looking in. When it's personal, not so much.
53:Are you jealous of couples when you're single?
Not at all. I'm usually single for a reason.
54:How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?
That depends. Is someone reluctant to do it? Are there actual good excuses for why? IE: Baby mama drama, parents, family, etc.
If he is reluctant and doesn't have a good excuse, boy's hiding something.
Just remember to be nice and let him know that it's important to you. If it's important to you, it should be to him as well.
55:Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?
Neither. Griff would tell you different though. I just have a MAJOR problem with his conniving baby mama.
56:Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship?
Yes, actually. I'm still paying the consequences of that mistake.
57:Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?
Yes. YES. A THOUSAND TIMES, YES! See Question 42.
58:Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship?
This is another one that depends. I'm usually pretty dominant but submissive in the bedroom. Outside of the bedroom, no one can tell me what to do. I make my own decisions. I do take advice to heart though.
59:Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary?
60:What's your opinion on open relationships?
To each their own. I, however, do not share nor do I play well with others.
61:Who's more important: Your partner or your family?
My partner without a doubt. I extremely dislike my family. I don't even know how their blood runs through my veins, we are so different.
My family is bitter, selfish, and cruel.
I am happy, compassionate, and loving.
62:How do you define "cheating"?
Anything you wouldn't want your partner to find out about. Intimacy on any level with someone outside of your relationship, excluding permission from those in open relationships of course.
63:Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?
Fuck no. I like porn. I even SEND Nick porn.
64:Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated?
Somewhat. The commercialisation, definitely. Using it as an excuse to celebrate love? Not overrated at all.
65:Would you consider yourself a "cuddler"?